Tuesday, May 22, 2012

She refuses to let go, even after a decade.

Although this is a dating blog, I want to share an e-mail I received from my ex last night. We met on a dating network so I want to share how intense relationships can grow out of a dating site.

We have not spoken in over a decade since we broke up....no smiles passed, no messages. I felt strange 'cause knowing her it was hard to believe she didn't turn back to whisper her disgust she felt the way I left her. I was young, but that is no excuse. I broke her heart knowing that she will never be the same person again. It was comforting to know she had not tried to keep any ties. She's over me? I used to ask myself every now and then remembering the moments of love and lust we shared.

Apparently, I was wrong. She never did let go. Here is what she wrote:

"Hi again,

I could feel the raindrops on my face, the mixture of a tearless cry and the bitter smile. The feeling was so peculiar I can't definitely fathom its point of entry. It all started one starry night when I heard nothing but the "lub- dup" rhythm of the normal QRS complex. It was so euphoric, too good to be true. I even thought it was just a wonderful dream that I didn't have any desire to wake up from forever.

The cells in my brain are definitely in a serialize state. It's firing aimlessly to the unfamiliar image that my occipital lobe painted. My killer cells autoimmunity heightened to " red alert" . I felt lost in the felicity of the events. All of my wiser components were destroyed by the " bug virus" that trespassed over my completely balance being. The feeling simply pulled me down to the depth of the vast ocean. I couldn't breath, I couldn't think…I was simply drowned and I allowed myself to be carried away in the current.

I didn't even consider the validity of the words you said. It's impossible to witness the moment when all stars will become a black hole. It  would definitely happen, yet surely not in our  lifetime. I simply have faith in you.

The world transformed into a rainbow of colors. I have found the paradise of the Earth. Everything is almost perfect, not until the time when you became invisible. I just wish that my vision was lost; that's why I could not see you, yet as I look in the starry sky I could clearly see the twinkling stars. The cool wind blow the fragrant, flower smell and I saw the shadow of the falling leaves by the moonlight. I waited for your image to appear for almost a decade, yet you never showed up. Where are the golden words? They simply vanished.

As I woke up in the world of the dead, my scarf dropped  near a golden tomb.  I took a second glance to the picture above it and I was shocked! I blinked for a second, closed my eyelids and tried to fool my brain, yet it was really the smiling face of you that I saw when I got my eye's cones function back.

I wish I could just lose my consciousness and return to the fantasy- like world, but the truth sets in and I just dropped to my knee and cried. How did you allow the promise to be broken? I want to blame you, blow your engraved name out from the stone, however I  couldn't escape from the truth of the lies—you did not wait for the black hole to come. How could I blame you if I don't even have the control for such things?  If I could just stop the cardiac cells from dying I would definitely have done so, yet when the heart cells rest…they do so forever.

I could feel the tiny raindrops in my face , taste the salty tear mixed with it. I just realized how the shower of lies taste like. Painful as it is, yet for the second chance I will do the same thing. Allowing myself to be exposed to the shower of lies if it means  I could hear you again…make the oath of the stars becoming black hole and not letting your heart in a state of asytole.

Cumulonimbus clouds wrapped the sky , though tomorrow I might see the starry skies again. Will I see a black hole? Maybe amidst the shower of lies.

Awaiting your call,


Her words have ripped me apart and I officially hate myself!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

The growing dating searches: South East Asian girls

Recently I have noticed that the trend for dating South Asian Women and going to countries such as Philippines and Vietnam to find brides is growing in American and British males. Lets look in to the reasons behind this growing phenomenon.

They like to go to online dating service to find for true love. Young people in the South East Asian countries such as Philippines (remember, Katoto is a street slang for a 'close friend' in Tagalog dialect there which 75% of the Filipinas speak) go to clubs for fun. Regarding the relationship and marriage, they register their personal ads at online dating sites to find long-term partners. The main reason may be the choice of thousands of single men available online; they may find the very best. To find a Filipino woman, then you should visit the Philippines dating sites to find her.

South East Asian women for marriage are beautiful, charming, sexy and traditional. When you go to dinner in the city of Manila for example, you can view thousands of beautiful and sexy Asian women walking or riding a motorcycle. The weather is warm there, so they look too hot in their summer clothes. Many Western men are attracted to these beauties; there are many relationships and marriage between a Asian woman and foreign man in those days. To date or marry a woman in South East Asia, you need to know a few things. An Asian girl pays most attention to the human behavior. She judges a man by his heart, but not material. In other words, if you bring your stuff to show off to your Asian lady, you can't get her heart.

Women in Philippines, Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia and Bhutan are different from Western women. To capture a south East Asian bride, you should take good care of her. She thinks that if you take good care of her, then it shows that you love and care for her. Women in Manila for example, usually live with their parents until they get married. They don't move to live according to the woman from the West. Most Asian are trained to care for households that they are very good. Asian women are very family oriented. When dating or marrying a girl in South East Asia, you should know these things. A marriage is a lifetime commitment between a woman and a man so people in Philippines and all the neighboring countries like Vietnam etc take it seriously. They think about it carefully before they get married with each other.

Filipino women for dating register their profiles and even post their photos online to search partners. The process of finding a woman in the South East asia is easy and simple. Your computer is a great tool to find your beautiful bride. You don't go anywhere to find her because she is directly in front of a computer screen. Looking for a girl in Philippines saves you time and money because the comfort that you can find her on the Internet. If you try to have sex with her on the first date, then you will not get her heart. Most Filipino women don't date men who are only interested in sex with them. To win her heart permanentlyArticle Submission, you should show your behavior to her. You should show her that she is the one you have.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Why Smile?

For those who feel shy or are not used to approaching others on dating site and would want to the person they are interested in to initiate the conversation, Katoto has introduced a smile feature. Just send a smile with a click of a button and watch the magic unfold.

 Whenever you visit a profile on Katoto, send a smile because:

1. A Smile makes you even more attractive.
People who like to smile make people around them feel comfortable and happy and those who make it a habit end up have more friends.

2. A Smile changes our feelings.
If you are sad, smile at someone. It will would make you feel much better.

3. Smile is contagious.
When a person smiles, they will make the atmosphere more cheerful. People you smile at will surely smile back at you!

4. A smile makes people think positive about you.
Try to do this one: Ask someone to think of a bad thing while you are smiling at them. It's next to impossible. It's because, when you smile at someone, you send out a signal saying “life is good.” Your smile often is accepted as a gift.

Keep smiling through out this week and feel positivity overcome everything else around you.

Have a great week FULL OF SMILES :D

Monday, April 23, 2012

Which online dating network to join and why

Everyday more and more single men and women are joining online dating networks to find a casual or long term relationship. The trend is catching up all over the globe and the number of online dating profiles just keeps on growing.

In today’s globally well connected world, borders are not being considered by singles who are open to explore their chances beyond their national limits. Dating networks with available singles from all over the world are growing. Although some ethnic based dating sites are doing great too but dating networks which allow users to determine their own ethnic, religious or other preferences are getting noticed the most.

So now that you have decided to join a dating network (I’m guessing since you are reading this article), the question arises, which one and why? As a writer and an active researcher of dating networks, I’ve come across a fairly new platform that focuses a lot on member interaction and it is FREE! The best feature of Katoto is its own platform currency which, very appropriately, is ‘hearts’. You can use hearts to feature your profile, send awesome icebreaker gifts, send and receive unlimited messages. On top of that, instead of the usual icebreakers (which they also have), one can send a smile to anyone if they like what they see on the person’s profile.

Another difference is that developers of this fine dating network actually listen! One day you suggest a feature or request something to be added and if it enhances your experience, voila! It’s done. I’m sick and tired of those big names in the industry which leave you high and dry.

Last but not least, Katoto is developing its own singles database which means that those you find here are genuine singles as opposed to what you find on those too big to fail dating sites and get this, big names sell your profile without you even knowing! I found my profile on a dating network that I never signed up for. They had my user name, my password and all my pics with a detailed profile. Digging further into the matter, I found out that my profile was among the thousands of others that they ‘paid for’ to the network I was using. Well if that isn’t a privacy issue, not sure what is! For now, I’m banking on Katoto.com for safe and secure browsing without allowing them to sell my dating profile. Hope you’ve received some helpful pointers. Your comments are appreciated.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

That first online dating note

While searching for some tips for a friend, I came across this hilarious yet informative article on online dating. Following is the excerpt from that article.

Be complimentary.

Relatedly, praise is always an easy way to endear people to you (and a much less slimy approach than the famed "neg.") Just limit the praise to something personality-related ("Excellent discernment of good vs. embarrassing mumblecore movies," "Sweet ballet skiing pic,") and avoid physical compliments ("Your legs go on for miles and miles.") Such superficial remarks make you look as creepy and reptilian as an aforementioned neg-er, who drops insults in an attempt to buy himself some social capital.

Make like an ape.

Uh, a literate, typing ape, that is. Research consistently shows that we like people who look, move and -- critically -- talk like us. So tailor your tone to mathttp://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifch that of the apple of your eye. She's wry and sarcastic? Turn on the drollery. He's earnest and passionate? Amp up the sincerity.

Safety First!

But -- cue the sappy learning-moment-in-"Full-House" music -- don't start blathering in a voice that feels totally phony to you, mmkay? We're assuming you're interested because you have some personality traits in common ... and if you don't, he/she is gonna figure it out very swiftly.

Be brief.

Maybe some people out there love receiving verbose messages, but we'd argue that brevity is a virtue. Who's more intriguing -- the hottie at the bar who wanders over and rattles off a six-minute monologue blending compliments, autobiographical bits and small talk, or the Cool Kid who drops a quick remark and waits for encouragement to continue? Cap your first message at three or four sentences, tops. No need to waste all your witticisms in one shot.

Safety First!

Urban 20-somethings, take note: This tip is especially important for piquing the interest of that tattoo-riddled OKCupid user with a few too many Instagram profile pics. You see, in real-life pickup scenarios, hipsters are elusive creatures who spend hours exchanging information via eye-flashes and hair shakes with nary a word exchanged. Taciturnity is hot.

Make it easy for them to answer.

Generally, this means you should include a query, or at least a comment that obviously begs for a response. Sounds obvious, but you don't want to send a message so pithy and focused that the recipient is back at Square One trying to come up with a zingy response. Simple litmus test: Ask yourself, "If I received this message, could I come up with a few different ways to respond?" You're trying to get the ball rolling, not heave it over like a deflated basketball.

Read full article here: http://edition.cnn.com/2011/08/31/tech/social-media/online-dating-message-netiquette/index.html?hpt=hp_bn11